Posts Tagged ‘can’t change’

Its Not Pretty, But It Works!

  If you know anything about me, you probably know that when it comes to technology, I try to keep on top of most of the stuff that’s going on out there. Additionally though, I’m also a guy that has a hard time letting old technology go. I had an old cell phone with this [...]

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Processing vs. Stuffing

More often than not when I work with men, a common theme that I run into with them is that they have tried hard to manage their problems by “not thinking about it.” This is a pretty common idea for guys, because hey, if we don’t have to think about stuff, then we don’t have [...]

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Change the Scene, Change The Ending

If you’ve ever called yourself an idiot (like me), then you’ve probably kicked yourself for doing something stupid. More often than not, its probably not the first time that you’ve done it either. Why is this the case? Because humans are creatures of habit. This is nothing new really, but sometimes I wonder if we take the [...]

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The Trust Equation

I was going to sit here and blog about death and how Halloween takes death and turns it into something we fear or something that we joke about. I was going to go off on a rant about how horror movies are bad mkay, and that we are trained by society to fear death. Then [...]

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The Cultural Contrast of Light and Darkness

I’ve been watching the Firefly series over the course of the weekend, taking advantage of some much needed R&R. If you’ve watched the show, you know that for the most part, the heros in the story are a sort of anti-hero. It has a western outlaw sort of feel to it, and the boundaries between [...]

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Like The Flu, Emotions Can Be Contagious

With all the talk about the H1N1 virus, people are being more careful than they ever been about trying to stay healthy. Its at a point now where the wipe-grabbing behaviors of Adrian Monk don’t seem so out of the ordinary, when everyone is worried about getting sick. However, its a very real fear. People [...]

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Why Coaching Rules and Counseling Drools(?)

As Bob Dylan used to say, “and the times they are a changin’!” The climate is changing (no matter what your perspective is on who’s fault it is), the economy is changing (or is stagnantly bad, depending on your perspective), and in many respects, we seem to need to constantly be in tune with how [...]

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The Nobel Committee Doesn't Believe In Classical Conditioning; a.k.a. Life's Not Fair

Before you go getting on my case, I’m not criticizing the President. Hell, I’m not even mad at him for getting the Nobel Prize on Friday. I’m more upset at the fact that the Nobel Committee decided to give him the Prize based on presumed accomplishment, whereas so many others worked hard and could show [...]

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Boundaries and Fences: A Visual Comparison

So I was meeting with a client over the course of the last week, and we ended up talking a bit about boundaries and how to apply them to her life. Much of the conversation had to do with how to set boundaries with family members and people she loves, which feels something like trying [...]

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The WATER Method Addendum: Openness and Awareness

So I’ve come to a revelation during my time here. I’ve realized that my approach to problems works for most people and most situations. However, when it comes to relationships, or family members, its really difficult for people to separate their problems into what they can and can’t change when they feel as though their [...]

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