So I took a week off from blogging for a couple of reasons. First, I didn’t have much to say, and the Valentine’s Day post seemed to get a lot of attention (though I may be misreading my spam folder). The other is because I’ve been horribly busy (and in this business, when in time [...]
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I’ve often said that if a woman can multi-task, she’s normal, but if a guy can multi-task, he’s got ADHD. I am about to introduce you to a very strange and magical place that men frequent often, but women may be unaware of. I’ve run into a lot of clients and friends who go to [...]
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anxiety / counseling / depression / feelings / help / management / marriage / relationship / relationships / stress / therapy / thoughts
Tags: can't change, change, control thoughts, emotions, good choices, management, relationships, stress, time, trust, words
October 29, 2009
I was going to sit here and blog about death and how Halloween takes death and turns it into something we fear or something that we joke about. I was going to go off on a rant about how horror movies are bad mkay, and that we are trained by society to fear death.
Then I [...]
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adults / anxiety / change / counseling / depression / fear / feelings / management / marriage / relationship / relationships / stress / thoughts
Tags: can't change, change, control thoughts, emotions, Life, life choices, relationships, thinking, thoughts, words
September 21, 2009
So I’m sitting with my wife today and we’re talking over coffee about our friends and how they’re doing lately. One of the things we noticed was that women and men seem to see their friends very differently. Not that we need another reason to create a difference between men and women mind you, because [...]
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adults / cheating / children / counseling / dating / fear / feelings / management / marriage / relationships
Tags: boundaries, divorce, emotions, feelings, good choices, life choices, love, marriage counseling, parenting, relationships, results
August 26, 2009
One of the more common themes I’ve been dealing with in session with my couples is the concept of love, and how some people are “losing the loving feeling.” And I’ve come here to say one thing:
Love has nothing to do with feelings.
Yeah, I know, I know. This flies right in the face of all [...]
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Self-Help / adults / change / cheating / counseling / dating / marriage / relationship / relationships / therapy
Tags: actions, boundaries, can't change, change, cheating, emotions, love, management, marriage counseling, thinking
August 16, 2009
If you can’t control your crap, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. In my opinion, there’s no excuse for cheating. Plain and simple. This isn’t the first time I’ve said this. My previous post: Life is Short, Have an Affair?, I go off on a tangent about a site that allows you to do this [...]
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anxiety / children / depression / fear / help / management / marriage / relationship / relationships / stress / therapy
Tags: actions, anxiety, boundaries, control thoughts, emotions, management, overloaded, results, stress, thinking, thoughts
July 20, 2009
One day I was going to go hang out with a friend of mine, and I was fuming mad. I think my wife had said something to me, and then full circle, told me that she wanted the exact opposite (you guys out there probably know what I mean) or something like that. So I [...]
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That’s basically what AshleyMadison.com is advertising. There are a lot of people who are bent out of shape about its unabashed, completely straightforward approach which seems to say, “Yes you are married. Yes you can have an affair. Here, let’s help you have one.”
Now on the one hand, I ask this question: What’s new here? [...]
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