I haven’t been doing my usual “Monday and Thursday” blogging simply because I’ve been met with a quandry as of late. While part of this has to do with recent events involving the creation of a new human being, the rest of it has to do with this question:
Which is better: Feeling Great, or Doing Great Things? (this has nothing to do with me continuing to write a book…no…)
I found myself thinking a lot about this, mostly because I am split between the two. One the one hand, after a long day, I want to take some time to relax. In my field, we call this “self-care”, and place a high value on it, simply due to the nature of the work we do with people. At the same time, I can’t help but notice that there are people out there with less talent, less ability, less overall intelligence that have far more notoriety, influence and fortune than I do.
And I choose to let that drive me a little cuckoo.
Now that sounds a lot like I’m tooting my own horn, but if I didn’t believe I was a good therapist, then guess what…I wouldn’t be.
So as a result of sitting and watching people on TV (and maybe I’m just watching too much TV, and that’s my problem) do their thing and pimp out their self-help stuff, I can’t but sit here and think about how, if I had enough drive and motivation, I could probably do the same thing.
And yet, can I drag my own sorry behind out of the long hours and work with people to be able to go the extra mile and do what it takes to achieve that?
This decision has to do with all the elements of the WATER Method: My Words are telling me that I deserve some time for myself, and that I want something more. My Actions show that I’m doing something in one direction, but not another. My Thoughts wander off into how I could be helping others and reaching more people. My Emotions are the feelings that I get when I think about these ideas. My Results are what I have right now, and what I could have if I change any of the other elements.
So when it comes right down to it, what do I value more? At any given point in time, that seems to change, and even if I want something bigger or better, am I willing to do what it takes?
A better question would be this: What do you value more? Do you think that its better to feel good in the moment, or plan ahead and feel good as a result of the things you accomplish?
Trick is though, each of these has their own fair share of consequences. Feel great now, but lost opportunity for accomplishment later. Do great things now, and suffer that difficulty, but feel great later for what you’ve achieved. Each has its own share of pros and cons.
What’s more: How does this affect your mental health? A strong part of mental/emotional health is feeling good or not feeling good, so is it better to feel good in the moment, or work through your issues so you have a longer lasting contentment?
Alright, I think I’ve talked enough. What do you think?