If you’ve ever called yourself an idiot (like me), then you’ve probably kicked yourself for doing something stupid. More often than not, its probably not the first time that you’ve done it either. Why is this the case? Because humans are creatures of habit. This is nothing new really, but sometimes I wonder if we take the time to think about our habits.
Better yet, we probably don’t think about them in a way that changes our behavior. Well, that’s what this post is here to change.
Ever watch a movie that has a scary moment in it? I’ll admit I haven’t seen very many, mostly because I think horror movies are a waste of oxygen. Be that as it may, if you’ve ever seen something startling in a film, it probably had that desired effect the first time you saw it.
Meaning, see it once, get scared. See it again, and yawn.
Why did this happen? At first, you were scared out of your wits (for me, this was Bilbo trying to grab the ring from Frodo in Lord of the Rings). After the first time though, well, that’s just crazy old Bilbo grabbing the ring again.
You’ve seen it before, so the effect is lost.
But what if we looked at our Actions this way? Or our Thoughts? If we could recognize that anything we want to change has been done before, and that we’ve seen it play out in our lives over and over again, then we can change that scene and make it better. I mean, why have a sucky ending to your life? Make the scene and thus the behavior what you want it to be.
How do you do that? Here’s the breakdown.
1. Take a look at your negative habitual Actions, Thoughts or Words.
2. Look at the triggers that happen before those Words, Actions or Thougts.
3. Once you’ve set the “scene” you know when its coming. You’ve seen it before, so you know what’s going to happen.
4. Decide how you want your future to turn out, i.e. How you want to change things, and make an effort to change your future.
If you think about how you want your future to go, and how its been acted out in the past, you can change the scene by implementing a new script. The key is recognizing what happens before the problem issue, remembering how this event has happened before, and then deciding how you want the event to turn out in the future.
Do this enough times, and you can change your habits.