Over the course of my time as a therapist for hire, I’ve found that a lot of people are not just looking to solve their problems, but they also want to feel better about the problems they’re dealing with. Sometimes they feel as though they’re “not being true to themselves”, and as a result they’re not happy. Usually when I ask what “being true to yourself” means, I get a lot of funny looks, as if I’m just supposed to know this.
If I were to guess though, I would say that being true to yourself probably means doing whatever feels good for you at the given moment.
Maybe that’s my sarcastic way of looking at human beings, and maybe there’s more to it than that. However, it may be good to take a look at who you are in order to identify how to be true to yourself. After all, in order to be true to yourself, you have to know who this “self” is. If you don’t, its highly likely that you’ll be false to yourself, and well, no one wants that now, do they.
If I were to suggest how to do this, I would consider taking some time to figure out who the heck you are. Tony Robbins, in his Lessons In Mastery series (No joke, this actually helped me double my caseload), asks the question, “Who are you?” right at the beginning. The purpose of this is to help you ask not just what you do, or the roles that you’ve created for yourself, but define yourself according to your beliefs and your values. So for me, the definition of self goes a little something like this:
1. Core Beliefs and Values
2. Talents and Skills
3. Life Purpose
4. Areas of Enjoyment
Is there any other way to define yourself? Consider these as a helpful tool to define yourself. As Shakespeare would say “to thine own self be true.” Know thyself, and from there you can be true to thyself!