I’m sure you’ve heard this one before: “Are you a glass-half-empty kind of person, or a glass-half-full kind of person?” As if there are only two types of people in the world, and that we are supposed to be judged that way. I was thinking about this analogy today and I thought about something scientific [...]
My Dog Arwen Ran Away From Home.
This is Arwen.
This is the runner that I tied her up on.
1 hour later, at about 11:30pm, this is what I saw…an empty latch, with no dog on it.
Immediately I panicked, ran into the house and told my wife. We each grabbed a leash and a jar [...]
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A lot of the couples I work with seem to come into my office with a general principle in mind: “We Have Problems, Fix Them.” What I used to do was try to manage the problems first, and deal with the issues that are at hand. But then, I started to realize something: It doesn’t [...]
Alright. I don’t make any bones about the fact that I am a Christian counselor. A little while ago, I had a client call me and say that she was fine working with me, but her husband was concerned about my being a Christian, and due to this, they decided not to work with me. [...]
The internet is an amazing thing. Seriously, it helps me do so much more than I used to. But then I wondered if there was such a thing as too much internet. I have internet at my home, at my private practice, even on my phone. Did I actually need to be that connected all [...]
Over the course of my time as a therapist for hire, I’ve found that a lot of people are not just looking to solve their problems, but they also want to feel better about the problems they’re dealing with. Sometimes they feel as though they’re “not being true to themselves”, and as a result they’re [...]
Someone you know/love is mad. So they take it out on you. Ouch! Painful!
So you decide its a good idea to find something just as equally mean or worse, and fire it back.
They get hurt. Score!
So on goes the tennis match. Each person getting more and more angry at the other, and hoping to “win” [...]
There seems to be a recurring theme this week with my clients. I am amazed at how many people really do treat their significant others poorly just by how they talk to them. Not even kidding, I’ve seen people over and over not want to solve the problem, but merely be validated in their quest [...]
The other day I was on my way to work, and I just felt like dirt. You know the kind of feeling I’m talking about…tired, out of sorts, really down about how things are going. I was talking to my wife about it, and she suggested I listen to some music. I had a lot [...]