"Life is short. Have an Affair?"

That’s basically what AshleyMadison.com is advertising. There are a lot of people who are bent out of shape about its unabashed, completely straightforward approach which seems to say, “Yes you are married. Yes you can have an affair. Here, let’s help you have one.”

Now on the one hand, I ask this question: What’s new here? People have been using social networking sites to have affairs since they’ve been in existence, so how is this any different, other than its bold statements and “Affair Guarantee.” If Match.com and eHarmony.com can make money getting people together, why can’t this site make money breaking relationships apart?

On the other hand, just because people have been having affairs, doesn’t mean you should encourage or help them along in doing so. Their slogan “Life is short. Have an affair.” is an imperative statement (meaning giving you an order, like “Listen!”). Its one thing if a site is up, and its there for anyone to access and connect with people at their discretion. For example, you can’t blame Facebook or Myspace for being the cause of people having affairs, because it is the person making the decision to do so. This site, on the other hand, encourages an affair, and guarantees you one for the low, low cost of $249.

So this raises another question: If you tell someone to have an affair, and they do, is it your fault that they have an affair, or are human beings responsible for their own actions? Its like asking the question: Do guns kill people, or do people kill people?

The bottom line here is morals and values. What are your core beliefs about love? About relationships? About marriage? About sex? Do you believe your relationship will work, or is it bound to fail like all the others?

I am a firm believer that life is what you make it to be, including relationships and yes, sex. If you’re truly unhappy with your relationship, then start talking to your significant other about it. If you want to slap that person in the face for your own selfish reasons, be my guest, but you probably won’t learn from your relationship experience, and it may be that you’ll end up getting in and out of relationships for the rest of your life. Your call.

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